Nada

So, I've got nada for you. There was no 4th date with "Tom" this week due to some unforeseen circumstances. We've been in touch, but no idea as to when we'll see each other next. 

I've dabbled a bit on one of the sites in the past week, but frankly, I'm tired of this online dating crap. I can now say I've tried it, and it was ok. I met a few good guys, but I also met a lot of assholes. However, overall, I don't think it's quite for me. It really has come down to the "types" of men on the site. Yea, there are a few, rare decent ones, however, a lot of them are...... well, not. "Tom" really is a lot of what I look for in a guy, and a lot of me hopes things continue to go well. He has been a breath of fresh air but who knows how long that air will stay fresh. Thank goodness for Febreeze, right?

Anyways, a girl's favorite holiday has now approached. 

Get out there, lassies, in your costume that is some random thing with a side of slut. 

It's the one day a year you can get away with it. 

I, however, will be going as a blue lego. 

Yes, I will be wearing a box. 

No, not so sexy, but I dig. 

Happy Friday, and more importantly, Happy Halloween!

The Dirty Deets

I know I've been some what vague about the dirty details of my dates with "Tom." 

Yes, we have kissed. And a fair amount. Ok, a lot. 

The first kiss was somewhat awkward. During our second date, after a few drinks had been consumed and we were shaking it on the dance floor, there was that "in the moment" kiss that kinda just happened. At first I thought it was kind of awkward, but it took a few more tries to feel out each other's kissing style. However, after much practice, I think we've got it sorted out. :)

We are still chatting it up. 

No talk yet of a 4th date. 

Keep ya posted. 

Third date's a charm.

Had date #3 with "Tom," and it went well!

Earlier that day, I woke up at an ungodly hour of 5:15 am for no good reason. I couldn't fall back asleep, and by the time I was ready to shut my eyes again, it was time for me to start getting ready for work. Work was work, and that afternoon we had a "staff meeting" in which we open a few bottles of wine. I think the wine helped me relax my nerves a bit, but once I got home I was rushing around trying to clean things up and get myself ready. "Tom" was running a bit late due to car troubles, so it was good that I had the extra time to get things done.

We first met up at the metro and hopped on to go have us some of the best burgers ever. He had never been to this joint and I couldn't WAIT to take him since he mentioned burgers are one of his favorite things to eat. And it was a hit!!! We got there at just the right time; before the dinner rush. We stood in line, looked over the menu and picked out the best burger for ourselves. We got our number and LUCKILY found a table; probably one of the hardest things to do in this place since its small and always busy.

He seemed to enjoy himself because: 1. there was very little talking and 2. he DOWNED that burger. There was NOTHING left on that plate. I was still half way through mine when I looked over and noticed he had one bite left. These burgers are 10 ounces of amazingness and there really isn't much room for anything else once consumed. We sat there in our food comas for a bit and chatted about... whatever came to mind.

I feel like we're reaching that awkward spot of we got past all the stuff we wanted to know about each other, or the interview period. Now, I feel like it was a little difficult to chat because we don't have that common background and really anything to go off from. We're complete strangers meeting via online and that's the biggest thing we have in common. We don't have mutual friends, we didn't go to the same school, and hell, we're not even from the same area. So it's hard to find things to relate with one another on other than "What food do you like?" "Burgers." "I like burgers too."

Aside from that weird feeling, I really do like this guy a lot. I like hanging out with him mostly because I feel like myself when I'm around him. He's goofy, caring, respectful, but still can be ridiculous and a bit of a smart aleck, so I like how balanced he is. I really do enjoy his company even if we might not always have something really interesting to talk about; he puts in an effort and it shows. We're still getting to know one another better and I think with time we'll feel each other out and that connection will become stronger and the awkward phase will go away.

Anyways, after we finished dinner and let things settle, we decided to walk back along the main road and just kind of took in what was around us. Since he is still new to the area, he's still unfamiliar with where things are, so it was fun pointing out my favorite spots and discovering new places together. We eventually decided to go to this wine bar off the main drag that I had been to once before and really liked. When we walked in, there were no open tables, nor any spots at the bar, so we had to stand. My feet were KILLING me after walking up hill for a mile in "cute" boots that weren't the best walking shoes. I got a glass of white and he got a sampler of three whites. It's a nice little wine bar that's fun for dates, out of town visitors, or just catching up with friends. Once we finished that, we decided to go back to his place real quick to pick up the bottle of wine we bought the week before on our second date, and then headed over to my place to enjoy it on my balcony. Overall, it was a nice and relaxing evening, especially since I have a slight cold and we both woke up way too early for our liking.

After we parted ways, we had chatted about possibly getting together saturday evening, but beacause we both had things going on earlier that day, we didn't end up meeting up. Another date has yet to be set, but I'm still as anxious and excited to see him again as I was the first and second time. I'm not sure if its obvious, but I kinda really like this guy. :)

We'll see what happens!

Date Night! Round 3!

Tonight is Date Night! 

"Tom" and I are going on our third date tonight.

We were going to go get our golf on, however someone's car had to go into the shop and can no longer drive. 

So, I suggested we get burgers instead. 

Not just any burgers, but the best burger I've ever had. Seriously. 

I'm not sure what we are going to do afterwards, but we'll be in serious food comas. 

Whatever we end up doing, hopefully it doesn't require much movement nor consumption of anything else. 

Maybe we'll just sit there. In silence. Taking in all that is burger. 

Mmm. 

"The Bet"

So, I've been holding out on you. I received this gem of a message a few weeks ago, but alas, here it is.

Title: The Bet
Message: Buddy of mine was looking over my shoulder and claimed that - you look like someone who will date a starving artist but marry a doctor. I came to your defense, of course, but now we've got a $20 bet. Am I about to lose $20?
-R

PS: Don't be too turned off by the text in my profile :)


Alright, I was half tempted to respond and not by answering his question. It would have gone like "You're an ass and so is your friend." Aside from being an ass, where on God's green earth does this guy think this type of message is going to pick up a lovely lady like myself? I haven't the slightest clue who would respond nor know any woman who would actually find this in any way attractive. And no, he wasn't hot.

"Tom" is awesome.

After successful 1st and 2nd dates, "Tom" and I will be going on our THIRD date this Friday!

We coordinated last night to see what day might work best for each other and picked Friday. A time hasn't been set, but then again, it's fairly early in the week. Either way, I am so excited to see this guy again! 

I'll keep ya posted if anything changes!!!

"Tom" Date #2

Last night I had my second date with "Tom."

Before the date happened, I was ECSTATIC to see him again. There was something about him that I felt like really clicked between us. I was SO NERVOUS about what to wear, I even made an emergency mall shopping trip to find SOMETHING that I would feel comfortable in. After showing my roommate about 5 different cardigans with one top, and then trying on different tops after that, I finally settled on a sweater, jeans, and wedge sandals; whew.

Finally, 6pm rolled around and I started to get really nervous/excited. I finally got a text from him that he was downstairs in his car. I flew out the door and headed on down; I haven't been this excited in so long! I walked on over to his car, hopped in and we were off! We first headed to what we thought was going to be a wine bar, but it was actually a wine/beer/cheese shop that offered free tastings. After looking over the store and trying a few tastings, we decided to buy a bottle of white for a later time/date. Since the place wasn't what we were expecting, we decided to go across the street and grab a bite to eat.

Dinner was nice; conversation seemed to flow well and I just felt like I really connect with this guy. We sat outside since it was cool but not freezing; my ideal weather. I just really enjoy "Tom's" company and feel so much like myself when we are hanging out (even thought it's been twice now). We wrapped up dinner and discussed what was going on later that evening. Some friends and I talked about meeting up at a bar so I invited "Tom" out with us; not sure if this was my best move inviting a guy I had met TWICE to meet some of my closest friends. However, he was down for going out and if we were going to see each other any more down the line, he's eventually going to meet my friends. First, we swung by his place to drop off the bottle of wine where I walked into the living room with all of his roommates sitting there. I. Felt. Nervous. Not only was I nervous about seeing him again, I was NOT anticipating meeting his roommates.

They seemed like cool guys and to help break the ice I mentioned how "Tom" showed me a picture of one of them in his halloween costume; Borat. Yes, the thong swimsuit. "Tom" showed me this picture before dinner, which did kind of kill my appetite for a few minutes. Since we then had something to discuss, it made me at least feel a little more comfortable. However, we didn't stay long and decided to head to the bar early.

Meeting friends for the first time is so awkward. I was not anticipating this happening so soon, but it did. And it went alright! However, I felt like we weren't all able to talk since it was loud and we were kind of sprawled along the bar. After getting enough drinks in us, we headed to the dance floor. We got our bogey on. I got mine on so much that I totally bit it on the dance floor. I went down hard and fast. I couldn't believe that I totally just fell flat on my ass in front of this guy who I was totally crushing on. Good job, me. "Tom," helped me up and we laughed it off and kept dancing the night away. At the end of the night, everyone dispersed and we went on our marry ways.

I really like this guy. I'm not sure if there was enough interaction with "Tom" and my friends, but I'm hoping in time that they get to know him better and see what I see. I haven't felt this comfortable around someone in my life. He's weird just like how I can be weird. He's sarcastic how I'm sarcastic. We can joke about pretty much anything and know that in the right light, anything can have humor (almost anything). I'm just so happy I have finally met someone who has as much energy as I do and wants to have fun with everything they do. FINALLY.

"Tom" and I have other plans this weekend and said we'd keep in touch and plan something for later this week. I know there is that bottle of wine sitting in his fridge so I'm hoping we can crack that baby open now that its sufficiently chilled, just like our butterflies.