Nada

So, I've got nada for you. There was no 4th date with "Tom" this week due to some unforeseen circumstances. We've been in touch, but no idea as to when we'll see each other next. 

I've dabbled a bit on one of the sites in the past week, but frankly, I'm tired of this online dating crap. I can now say I've tried it, and it was ok. I met a few good guys, but I also met a lot of assholes. However, overall, I don't think it's quite for me. It really has come down to the "types" of men on the site. Yea, there are a few, rare decent ones, however, a lot of them are...... well, not. "Tom" really is a lot of what I look for in a guy, and a lot of me hopes things continue to go well. He has been a breath of fresh air but who knows how long that air will stay fresh. Thank goodness for Febreeze, right?

Anyways, a girl's favorite holiday has now approached. 

Get out there, lassies, in your costume that is some random thing with a side of slut. 

It's the one day a year you can get away with it. 

I, however, will be going as a blue lego. 

Yes, I will be wearing a box. 

No, not so sexy, but I dig. 

Happy Friday, and more importantly, Happy Halloween!

The Dirty Deets

I know I've been some what vague about the dirty details of my dates with "Tom." 

Yes, we have kissed. And a fair amount. Ok, a lot. 

The first kiss was somewhat awkward. During our second date, after a few drinks had been consumed and we were shaking it on the dance floor, there was that "in the moment" kiss that kinda just happened. At first I thought it was kind of awkward, but it took a few more tries to feel out each other's kissing style. However, after much practice, I think we've got it sorted out. :)

We are still chatting it up. 

No talk yet of a 4th date. 

Keep ya posted. 

Third date's a charm.

Had date #3 with "Tom," and it went well!

Earlier that day, I woke up at an ungodly hour of 5:15 am for no good reason. I couldn't fall back asleep, and by the time I was ready to shut my eyes again, it was time for me to start getting ready for work. Work was work, and that afternoon we had a "staff meeting" in which we open a few bottles of wine. I think the wine helped me relax my nerves a bit, but once I got home I was rushing around trying to clean things up and get myself ready. "Tom" was running a bit late due to car troubles, so it was good that I had the extra time to get things done.

We first met up at the metro and hopped on to go have us some of the best burgers ever. He had never been to this joint and I couldn't WAIT to take him since he mentioned burgers are one of his favorite things to eat. And it was a hit!!! We got there at just the right time; before the dinner rush. We stood in line, looked over the menu and picked out the best burger for ourselves. We got our number and LUCKILY found a table; probably one of the hardest things to do in this place since its small and always busy.

He seemed to enjoy himself because: 1. there was very little talking and 2. he DOWNED that burger. There was NOTHING left on that plate. I was still half way through mine when I looked over and noticed he had one bite left. These burgers are 10 ounces of amazingness and there really isn't much room for anything else once consumed. We sat there in our food comas for a bit and chatted about... whatever came to mind.

I feel like we're reaching that awkward spot of we got past all the stuff we wanted to know about each other, or the interview period. Now, I feel like it was a little difficult to chat because we don't have that common background and really anything to go off from. We're complete strangers meeting via online and that's the biggest thing we have in common. We don't have mutual friends, we didn't go to the same school, and hell, we're not even from the same area. So it's hard to find things to relate with one another on other than "What food do you like?" "Burgers." "I like burgers too."

Aside from that weird feeling, I really do like this guy a lot. I like hanging out with him mostly because I feel like myself when I'm around him. He's goofy, caring, respectful, but still can be ridiculous and a bit of a smart aleck, so I like how balanced he is. I really do enjoy his company even if we might not always have something really interesting to talk about; he puts in an effort and it shows. We're still getting to know one another better and I think with time we'll feel each other out and that connection will become stronger and the awkward phase will go away.

Anyways, after we finished dinner and let things settle, we decided to walk back along the main road and just kind of took in what was around us. Since he is still new to the area, he's still unfamiliar with where things are, so it was fun pointing out my favorite spots and discovering new places together. We eventually decided to go to this wine bar off the main drag that I had been to once before and really liked. When we walked in, there were no open tables, nor any spots at the bar, so we had to stand. My feet were KILLING me after walking up hill for a mile in "cute" boots that weren't the best walking shoes. I got a glass of white and he got a sampler of three whites. It's a nice little wine bar that's fun for dates, out of town visitors, or just catching up with friends. Once we finished that, we decided to go back to his place real quick to pick up the bottle of wine we bought the week before on our second date, and then headed over to my place to enjoy it on my balcony. Overall, it was a nice and relaxing evening, especially since I have a slight cold and we both woke up way too early for our liking.

After we parted ways, we had chatted about possibly getting together saturday evening, but beacause we both had things going on earlier that day, we didn't end up meeting up. Another date has yet to be set, but I'm still as anxious and excited to see him again as I was the first and second time. I'm not sure if its obvious, but I kinda really like this guy. :)

We'll see what happens!

Date Night! Round 3!

Tonight is Date Night! 

"Tom" and I are going on our third date tonight.

We were going to go get our golf on, however someone's car had to go into the shop and can no longer drive. 

So, I suggested we get burgers instead. 

Not just any burgers, but the best burger I've ever had. Seriously. 

I'm not sure what we are going to do afterwards, but we'll be in serious food comas. 

Whatever we end up doing, hopefully it doesn't require much movement nor consumption of anything else. 

Maybe we'll just sit there. In silence. Taking in all that is burger. 

Mmm. 

"The Bet"

So, I've been holding out on you. I received this gem of a message a few weeks ago, but alas, here it is.

Title: The Bet
Message: Buddy of mine was looking over my shoulder and claimed that - you look like someone who will date a starving artist but marry a doctor. I came to your defense, of course, but now we've got a $20 bet. Am I about to lose $20?
-R

PS: Don't be too turned off by the text in my profile :)


Alright, I was half tempted to respond and not by answering his question. It would have gone like "You're an ass and so is your friend." Aside from being an ass, where on God's green earth does this guy think this type of message is going to pick up a lovely lady like myself? I haven't the slightest clue who would respond nor know any woman who would actually find this in any way attractive. And no, he wasn't hot.

"Tom" is awesome.

After successful 1st and 2nd dates, "Tom" and I will be going on our THIRD date this Friday!

We coordinated last night to see what day might work best for each other and picked Friday. A time hasn't been set, but then again, it's fairly early in the week. Either way, I am so excited to see this guy again! 

I'll keep ya posted if anything changes!!!

"Tom" Date #2

Last night I had my second date with "Tom."

Before the date happened, I was ECSTATIC to see him again. There was something about him that I felt like really clicked between us. I was SO NERVOUS about what to wear, I even made an emergency mall shopping trip to find SOMETHING that I would feel comfortable in. After showing my roommate about 5 different cardigans with one top, and then trying on different tops after that, I finally settled on a sweater, jeans, and wedge sandals; whew.

Finally, 6pm rolled around and I started to get really nervous/excited. I finally got a text from him that he was downstairs in his car. I flew out the door and headed on down; I haven't been this excited in so long! I walked on over to his car, hopped in and we were off! We first headed to what we thought was going to be a wine bar, but it was actually a wine/beer/cheese shop that offered free tastings. After looking over the store and trying a few tastings, we decided to buy a bottle of white for a later time/date. Since the place wasn't what we were expecting, we decided to go across the street and grab a bite to eat.

Dinner was nice; conversation seemed to flow well and I just felt like I really connect with this guy. We sat outside since it was cool but not freezing; my ideal weather. I just really enjoy "Tom's" company and feel so much like myself when we are hanging out (even thought it's been twice now). We wrapped up dinner and discussed what was going on later that evening. Some friends and I talked about meeting up at a bar so I invited "Tom" out with us; not sure if this was my best move inviting a guy I had met TWICE to meet some of my closest friends. However, he was down for going out and if we were going to see each other any more down the line, he's eventually going to meet my friends. First, we swung by his place to drop off the bottle of wine where I walked into the living room with all of his roommates sitting there. I. Felt. Nervous. Not only was I nervous about seeing him again, I was NOT anticipating meeting his roommates.

They seemed like cool guys and to help break the ice I mentioned how "Tom" showed me a picture of one of them in his halloween costume; Borat. Yes, the thong swimsuit. "Tom" showed me this picture before dinner, which did kind of kill my appetite for a few minutes. Since we then had something to discuss, it made me at least feel a little more comfortable. However, we didn't stay long and decided to head to the bar early.

Meeting friends for the first time is so awkward. I was not anticipating this happening so soon, but it did. And it went alright! However, I felt like we weren't all able to talk since it was loud and we were kind of sprawled along the bar. After getting enough drinks in us, we headed to the dance floor. We got our bogey on. I got mine on so much that I totally bit it on the dance floor. I went down hard and fast. I couldn't believe that I totally just fell flat on my ass in front of this guy who I was totally crushing on. Good job, me. "Tom," helped me up and we laughed it off and kept dancing the night away. At the end of the night, everyone dispersed and we went on our marry ways.

I really like this guy. I'm not sure if there was enough interaction with "Tom" and my friends, but I'm hoping in time that they get to know him better and see what I see. I haven't felt this comfortable around someone in my life. He's weird just like how I can be weird. He's sarcastic how I'm sarcastic. We can joke about pretty much anything and know that in the right light, anything can have humor (almost anything). I'm just so happy I have finally met someone who has as much energy as I do and wants to have fun with everything they do. FINALLY.

"Tom" and I have other plans this weekend and said we'd keep in touch and plan something for later this week. I know there is that bottle of wine sitting in his fridge so I'm hoping we can crack that baby open now that its sufficiently chilled, just like our butterflies.

Date Night!

It's Date Night!!! 

I am SUPER excited to see "Tom" again and I hope it goes just as well as it did on Wednesday. 

Can't wait to report back!!! :D

"Tom"

"Tom" aka Sweet 16.

 Let me just say, this is the 16th guy I have met through an online dating site. 16. 16. 
Maybe this bothers me more than it does anyone else, but after 4 months, good googa mooga.

"Tom" was AWESOME.

This was the best date I've had in a LONG time with someone who I felt like I REALLY connected with!!!!!!!!!

I am STILL EXCITED from last night!

Ok. So. "Tom" messaged me last week on a whim; and it was a breath of fresh air, let me tell you. I was like "Finally, a guy who seemed normal." Our messages were brief but enough to keep messaging back. This past weekend he asked if I wanted to get together sometime for drinks; I obliged. I gave him my number since I figured it would be better to contact each other that way than to constantly check the site.

"Tom" texted me on Tuesday afternoon about getting together Wednesday evening. We went back and forth as to where to meet and finally settled on a time and location. I. Was. Stoked. I didn't really know a whole lot about this guy but from what I gathered, he was my type. I wasn't sure how I would feel physically towards him, but gathering from his pictures, he was someone in which I would find attractive, at the least.

Wednesday did not start off the way I wanted. I woke up late and only had minutes to spare before getting to work early/on time. This means, I had ZERO time to do my hair. Yes, the hair. I was frazzled. My hair was frazzled. It was pinned up and thrown in a messy bun and was anything but hot; maybe a hot mess, but that's it. I was trying to make sure I didn't get stuck late at work because there was a shower that needed to be taken and hair to be did.

Remember in my last post, how my cleanliness levels were directly proportional to my interest in a guy? Yea. I bathed this time. I went all out.

After I got all ready and beautified, it was time to head out. Of course, it was raining. And I decided to walk. I attempted to wrap my hair up and make sure it was protected. But that didn't help. When I arrived, I realized I was nicely mistified and my hair was starting to retract back to its normal, frizzy self. What's a girl to do? Anyways, I arrived after a brisk walk on over and was ready to go.

I wasn't quite sure where he was, but I saw someone at the bar sitting by themselves. I wasn't about to walk over and be like "Tom?" however, that would have made for a really interesting story. Anyways, I checked my phone and by the time I was about to respond, he came walking on over. We said "Hi," shook hands, and then the interview began. The shaking of the hands was odd, but I dealt.

We awkwardly walked around trying to find a place to sit and finally landed at a high top table. We ordered some beers and just started chatting away. We clicked. It was ........ AWESOME. It was so refreshing to finally meet someone who I felt like was my compliment to my personality. I really enjoyed getting to know him and felt like he is exactly my type; has a lot of energy, but still laid back, and very much a guy's guy. We talked about EVERYTHING. And I enjoyed listening to everything he had to say. In my head, I was going over things that I look for in a guy and he met a lot of the criteria. I felt like this is someone who would be really fun to hang out with and try new things and I can introduce to a lot of different friends of mine.

Towards the end of the evening, he asked if I wanted to get together again; OF COURSE I said yes. He asked what my weekend looked like and we settled again on another day and time. Yes, that's right. This little fishy caught a second date; hook, line and sinker. Who's the fish? I am. We decided to head out and he offered to drive me home. It was a quick trip home since we both live very close to one another and met at a restaurant that was less than a mile away. We confirmed, again, about meeting up TOMORROW for our second date.

I am so ecstatic to see this guy again. Not only is "Tom" my type of guy, but he also felt like someone that I SHOULD be dating. It feels so nice to come out of a date being like "BINGO!" we have a winner. It has put me in a great mood today and I can't wait to see him again. Sorry, that was kind of cliche, but it happened.

Date number two; let's do this.

On a roll

Alright folks, it looks like this fish got her groove back.

I have a date tonight. I'm excited. I will, of course, report back. 

Hold tight. 

Date with "Peter 2" aka with a gift from God... of himself.

Alrighty, so I went. Saturday's date was with a gift from God... of himself. This guy came off as if he's hot stuff. I beg to differ.

We texted on Friday and decided on my suggestion for a place to meet and a time. Woo.

Saturday afternoon I got a text from him.

Him: We still good for tonight?

Me: Yep! Does it still work for you?

Him: Yep.

Um, we talked the day before and I ended it with "See you tomorrow!" So.... I am not sure why he felt the need to confirm, AGAIN, the day of, that we were still meeting.

I was not excited for this date by any means. I even contemplated canceling the date completely. Before hand, I got sushi with a friend so I was nice and full before the date and there was no room to eat. I really didn't care about this date and I didn't even wash my hair; that's how much I didn't care. Apparently my cleanliness level is directly proportional to that of my interest in a guy. Hot.

I got back from sushi and started to get ready, but was starting to run late. When I was on my way, I texted him to let him know that I was running a few minutes late but I would be there soon. This was at 7:50pm and we were meeting at 8pm. At least I had the courtesy to let him know I was running behind.

His reply: If the professor is 15 minutes late to class then it is canceled. ;)

I was pissed. This was pretty rude of him, and I understand the attempt at humor, but buddy, who are you? God? I'm running just a few minutes late, not an hour. Life happens; you get stuck at red lights and behind slow cars. There is nothing I can do about it.

I replied: I should be there in 5 min but only if I don't keep getting every red light.

His reply: No worries. I'm jamming out to 80s in my car just text me when u get here ill meet u out front.

My reply: Parking now. (literally sent this right after his text.... timing couldnt have been more perfect.... for that at least.)

Ok, so I haven't even MET this guy at this point and I can't believe I'm still going on this date.

I was 7 minutes late; how dare I run so late.... eh.

I am waiting out front and don't see him; where the hell is this guy? Then he comes stroooooolling around the corner at probably the slowest, leisurely pace I've ever seen. Ok, buddy, I get the point. First thought; this guy is so much better looking in person than he appeared in his pictures. Whew.

We hug hello and make our way inside to the restaurant which was much more crowded than I anticipated. I asked the hostess if the bar area was "seat yourself" which it was. We found a place along side a wall and staked out our territory. We agreed to get a beer sampler since the restaurant brews its own beer. As I waited, I was thinking, hmm, this isn't as bad as I anticipated. Finally, the bartender brought over the sampler to where he was standing at the bar, but then I noticed..... he was closing out his tab.

Well, I guess the sampler was it. He clearly wasn't anticipating anymore drinks past the 5 small beers we ordered.

He picked up the sampler and brought it over to where I was standing. That's when the date really began. And it was pleasant! I honestly was quite impressed with his actually self. Conversation seemed to flow pretty well and we seemed to have a lot to talk about. I was starting to warm up to this guy and thought, "Hmm, he's not that bad looking and I feel like we are connecting some. This is a pleasant surprise!"

After a little while, he excused himself to the restroom, and proceeded with the slowest pace ever. It was so weird.

I checked my phone and just about an hour had passed. We were almost done with our beers, so I wasn't quite sure what was going to happen next.

Once he returned we continued talking for a little while longer and finished the last of the beer. Then he announced that he had to get going because he had to be in DC by 9:30pm. He asked if I thought he could get there by 9:30pm and I asked, "Well, what part are you going to?"

Him: "Uhh, I'm not sure, I'm just entering the address into my GPS. But do you think I could make it by then?"

Me: "Um, do you know what part at least? Like Chinatown or.... something.....?"

Him: "Uhhh.... Georgetown."

So then I proceeded to ramble a little and tried to instill confidence that he could make it by 9:30pm to Georgetown.

We headed out the door and did a quick hug goodbye in which he said "It was night to meet you. Have a good evening."

Ok, so this guy KNEW he had to leave by 9pm ish in order to be on time at his next "appointment" of 9:30pm in the city. He did not mention this ONCE that he had somewhere to be later that night.

My question is this; why did he suggest a time of 8pm and only give the date an hour's worth of time when he had another commitment?

To me, this guy was a straight up douche. First, he does a half ass job at scheduling the date to begin with, and has the nerve to suggest me coming out HIS way, TWICE. Then, he's rude about the fact that I'm running just a few minutes late (I was a grand total of 7 minutes late). Then, he announces he has another engagement and has to bounce. Buddy, why did you even want to meet in the first place?

Clearly, you are not putting in a lot of effort because maybe you got burned in the past and don't want to waste your time. And let me tell you; I hear ya on that one. I don't want to waste MY TIME either. Maybe if you gave me a reason to be excited about this date, it would have gone better.

This is why I am over men.

"Peter 2"

Ok. I'm already annoyed.

So I've been talking to this other guy named "Peter 2" and the 2 is because this is the second "Peter" that I have been talking to. Why do people have to have the same names? Come on, be original. Like Apple (ha).

Anyways, our conversations have been odd. First off, I'm not a 100% physically attracted to this guy, so in the back of my head I already have an impression of what he might be like. But, I'm trying to put that aside and just meet him to see what happens; keeping an open mind here. Second, this guy must have not dated much or something.

Here is why: He first asked me to meet for drinks on Saturday (tomorrow) and asked me on.... Monday. I don't know what I'm doing on Tuesday let alone Saturday. I said that Saturday would work (since I have nothing else going on) and also suggested Thursday as well if he wanted to meet earlier.

His reply: Thursday works for me if you can come out towards me.

Excuse me? Ok wait, you are probably wondering "Where does he live?" I don't know where exactly he lives, but the city he put down on his profile is at least a 20 minute drive, or like an hour with traffic (damn you, DC). So, I didn't respond to this text because I was very turned off about the idea of ME traveling to HIM on a FIRST date. Something seems odd about that.

So, the next day, since I didn't respond to the text the night before, he texts me and asks "How does Thursday at 8 at (restaurant) sound?" I think to myself, "Where is this (restaurant)?"

I look it up. And I know EXACTLY where that is. It is about 18 miles away and according to google maps it's a 26 minute drive. Now, being a native to this area, you KNOW that google map's time estimates are lies. Maybe it takes 26 minutes if no one lived in this area. However, there are more inhabitants than we know what to do with on our interstates. So, this 26 minute drive is at least 30 mins, and that is if rush hour has ended, but we all know (in this area) that rush hour never seems to end. Damn you, 66.

Anyways, I reply and say "How about we just stick to Saturday?"
He replies "Sure, Grab a drink Saturday evening?"

I'm dumb and didn't notice the ? on the end of that last text.

Me: "I'm sorry, I didn't realize that was a question about sat. Yes, Saturday evening sounds good. Texting fail."

Him: "No problem. Do you wanna come my way and have me pick a place or other way around? I know there is more stuff in (my city) I just don't know the area well."

This ticked me off. First of all, I am not traveling out to see you on the first date. I'm not that desperate to go meet you all the way out there. Second of all, if you don't know the area well, take the initiative to look something up.

I replied with this: "Why dont we meet half way at (my pick of a restaurant) in (city in between us)? They have a bar area n brew their own beers too."

I have not heard back from him yet, and frankly, I'm kind of glad. I might be over reacting, but I'm not going to make the full 100% and just come your way. You can work for me and if you don't want to put in that much effort, I even suggested a PLACE and something that is equidistant between us. That is all the work I'm doing.

Can there be a required course in like..... middle school that teaches individuals how to woo someone they are interested in? I mean, come on. He asked me TWICE to come out his way. That is absurd in my book.


I'll keep you posted if there are any more developments. As in, me not meeting him ever.

"Jeremy"

Herrrrrrrrrrrrrrre we go! "Jeremy"

Alrighty folks, it has been a WHILE but I'm here to report a date I had last night with "Jeremy."

"Jeremy" and I have been talking for a couple of weeks and because of unforeseen circumstances, we were finally able to meet this week. We decided to meet in front of a metro stop and decide from there as where to go. I was running on time, go me!, and thankfully so was the metro. When I popped out of the metro, I received a text saying he was in front of the apple stand; apparently there is a farmers' market every Wednesday evening, who knew! So I looked around for said apple tent and ba-bam, there he was.

He looked exactly like what he looked in pictures, whew! He is just taller than I am with heels on and was pretty cute! He's a skinny guy, but not so much that I felt terribly uncomfortable with my curvaceous bod. We chatted for a bit and decided to check out a new restaurant that has opened up a few weeks ago. As we walked over, I felt pretty comfortable talking with him and not as nervous as I have been with other dates. He was a really positive, happy-go-lucky guy and it showed immediately.

We decided to sit outside and take advantage of the nice weather that the day had presented itself. There was a choice of two outdoor seating areas, so we picked the one further away from the busy street which was perfect. There was a fire pit that we sat near and the sun was just past the other side of the building so it wasn't in our eyes. We opened up the extensive drink menu and my indecisive self had a hard time picking the right drink. Luckily, we had a great, patient waitress who helped us narrow down our choices.

Once we ordered our drinks, conversation began. It went great. We had majored in the same thing in undergrad and had lots of stories to exchange. Everything flowed effortlessly from topic to topic and there were very few awkward, silent moments. He was funny, witty, and a very interesting individual; I was quite impressed. After a while, I started thinking, "This is a really nice guy. I wonder if he's too nice for me because I know sometimes I can be a down-right bitch."

We got another round of drinks and decided to split the sushi appetizer which was DELICIOUS! We're both in the same sushi boat in that we've had it a few times, but are still new to it and don't always know what to order. You could say when it comes to sushi, we're both fish out of water, ba-dum-shhhh. Ok, I'll stop. Conversation continued to go great and I was really impressed with how awesome this guy is as an individual. However (the more pleasant "but,"), I couldn't tell if he would make a better friend or if things would go well dating wise between us. He was really awesome, but I wasn't quite sure if there was the right chemistry between us. I was physically attracted to him and personality wise I thought he was hilarious, but I wasn't sure if he is the right balance for me. Other than that, he is a pretty cool dude.

We decided to get the check and head on out. He immediately swiped for the check when it was delivered to our table and I was thinking, "Whoa there killer. Do I have a guy for you to teach him how to be aggressive as you were just now," aka, "Dave" the worst date ever. Anyways, we both stopped by the restrooms which were conversation pieces in of itself. They had tvs mounted in the mirrors and the coolest hand-dryers I've ever seen. We crossed the street to the metro where we hugged goodbye and chatted a bit about seeing each other again. I said "So, we'll keep in touch?" and he said "Yea, definitely. How does your week look next week?"  I replied with, "Very open and flexible!" So we said goodbye and parted ways.

Overall, it was a really nice date. So nice that I really don't have much of a story to tell you other than..... it was a really nice date. I hope to see him again once more and see where it leads to!! I'll keep ya posted my fellow swimmers!

Random Message....

I don't know how these come my way, but they sure are interesting.

Title: I want to chill with you.

Message: Holler back soon please. :)

(His Name)

Well, with an enthralling message like that, how could I possibly wait!

New Date!!

Helloooooooo! 

Alrighty, I have another date set up for Wednesday. 

Hopefully this guy doesn't cancel on me! 

Btw, I never heard back from the other guy from last week. 

Apparently another day means never.